I write today about sex. Oooo - shocking. But true.
I've just read an article by a minister's wife for minister's wives about sex.
- Marriage is about serving one another. One way we can serve our husbands is to have sex with him because he will like it and it will make him feel happy. (I've oversimplified but that's the gist of it)
- No mention is made of a husband contributing to the process. No seduction, no "hello dear, how was your day?", no anything except walking in the door.
- It sounds like women never feel like sex - it's implied that we're just battling our way through the whole nasty business.
- It's all sex or nothing. Nothing in between "hello" and "business time"
( for a laugh see http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WGOohBytKTU)
I think it's great to put this whole issue on the table. It is great to be challenged about not being selfish or manipulative about the way we approach sex in marriage. I just think we have to be VERY careful making women feel more burdened. If women need to feel good to have sex telling them this is something you "should" do probably won't help.
By the way the photo represents us having FUN. And as cheesy as it sounds I think a lot of issues related to sex are about both the wife and husband having fun together.