Saturday, April 17, 2010
Is church for introverts?
I like people. I like talking to people a lot. But I also need a lot of time of on my own so I can keep enjoying talking to people. I don't get a lot of time of my own because of my family, so regaining energy can be challenging.
This is certainly in the "what happened to me?" category. I used to love being with people all day. In fact I would struggle to be on my own. I can remember when I had my first baby, organising activities for the mornings and the afternoons so that I was only on my own for his sleep time in the middle. I loved being away on conferences so that I had people on tap all the time.
But I've changed. I love being at home on my own. Not quite sure why. It is partly the kids, but it could also be getting older, having a fuller life ...
Back to my original question. How does church work for introverts?
Being honest, I've found church life harder as I've become more introverted. I like going to church on Sunday and I love chatting to people there. I like having a lunch afterwards too. I can cope with attending a Bible study (just). And that works fine for me.
But what about extra events? Social gatherings? Women's conferences? Coffee mornings? Training courses? I really struggle at the thought yet they are all good, fun events to go to. However, I'm content with catching up a few times a week. I feel connected.
So are the many events run by churches partially motivated by extroverts? People who want to be with others a lot? Maybe - I certainly organised lots of church social events in my past more extroverted life.
Am I just tired? Is my personality changing? Do I have too full a life? Would love any insights you have.
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