Here's a couple of things I actually HAVE learnt along the way about housework.
- You do get more efficient the longer you do it - and more strategic. 'What do I need to do to make it feel OKish?'
- There is hope for those at home with toddlers. It gets easier to keep the house clean as they get older, simply because my kids aren't actually in the house during the day when they are at school. I do find that the house gets pretty messy on the weekends/school holidays, but we usually do a big clean-up on Sunday afternoon - they get allocated a 'space' each - watching a favourite TV show is usually the incentive.
- The kid's bedrooms are the worst mess now. It's where they keep all their 'precious' things (aka bits of junk, bits of craft, bits of whatever), the girls get changed multiple times a day and I'm reluctant to go through their stuff without them being around. I feel like it's the only space they have any control over so I'm reconciling myself to living with bedrooms that are less than my ideal.
- The kids actually are able to do more to help - so if we need to do a desperate clean up we can do it pretty quickly. I just find all the complaining about doing it, tiring (which makes me a poor mother, I know, I know - they should just be obedient etc. etc)
- And here's last thing I've thought about. You could spend hours having an immaculate house but be a miserable mum because you don't want the kids to mess it up (which I have done when we're having people over for a meal - I become the crazy 'touch anything kids and you'll die' Mum). Or you can try and reconcile yourself thinking, 'well, this is life with kids, they won't be here forever and I don't want to be cranky with them all the time because I'm worried about keeping the house tidy'.
Of course, I do have friends who, amazingly, manage a lovely tidy house and remain a lovely, kind mother. Wish I was them but hey ... I'm not quite there yet!