Wednesday, December 1, 2010
When does 'sharing' become 'gossip'?
Thankfully, the pressure is off for the moment so we can get back to a more balanced work life.
So, it was disappointing to find out today that someone on our team has been complaining about how little we worked compared to other teams in the library. They had been complaining to their friend on another team about how bored they were feeling because there wasn't much to do in our team. It almost took my breath away.
And of course, this kind of talk just goes flying around the wider organisation and now we're hurt and so it goes on.
How to deal with all this? Do I keep getting caught up in complaining sessions with other members of my team? It is so connecting, so bonding to have a common enemy isn't it? Especially as I'm new and I want to have good relationships with those I work with.
But I felt today the line between 'sharing our disappointment' fast blurring into 'and then she said this, and I said this, then she did this, can you believe she actually did that?' etc, etc. And it becomes destructive. Not just for the person, but for those who are feeling hurt. It just adds fuel to the fire making it harder for those of us who are feeling hurt to work at making the relationship more functional.
Came home feeling glad that I'm part-time but also challenged to think hard about how to be more constructive and positive in those interactions.