Kids and disappointment
So we spent a lot of time chatting (not always without angst - 'so you don't think I can do it, do you Mum?' followed by floods of tears) about how she would respond if she missed out and how she was going to speak to the other girls about it. We really wanted her to be kind to others in the process. And recognise that the process is what it is. You can't control it - whether it seems fair or not.
So that was all fine. Good learning experience at our end.
However, I soon discovered that this was not a lesson a few of the other mothers had ever learnt. I had some bizarre conversations with other mums who were unhappy with the outcome and thought it was terribly unfair. One mother even told her daughter she'd demand a recount if she didn't win. What????
So frustrating that there are mums out there who are still stuck in the backstabbing land of Year 10 at high school. Except that now they're responsible adults with young daughters to bring up. Our kids aren't going to cope with disappointments and unfairness if we ourselves can't manage our emotions enough to show them how to do it.
Just got to take a deep breath and hang loose to it all. By the way the story ends happily. She won school vice-captain. Very excited for her.
PS If you're interested, I've written before about coping with children's disappointments here.