Funny thing is, while it is true, I feel much more defined by the 'mother of 5' (who also has a paid job) than the 'working' part of the description.
I loved being on holidays with my kids. Admittedly holidays is such bliss in our house because there is no running around with music lessons, swimming, sport etc. So it is a bit of fantasy land when compared to normal term time.
|Holiday cubby building - he actually slept in this for two nights!|
And I feel a little bit like I'm not quite tough enough. That I'm meant to be desperate for the working side of my life, because the kid side is just not enough to make me a whole person.
It didn't help me much that on Sunday there was an article in the paper talking about all the outsourcing that two working mothers did to enable them to work full time. This was to leave them free for the 'core competencies' of parenting (Project Offspring ringing any bells folks?).
Apparently the 'core competencies' are the things you can't pay someone to do for you. Like spending quality time with your child (none of this bathing, cooking, cleaning nonsense) - which btw has been debunked as an effective parenting strategy anyway.
While I do work, I have to admit that I still feel much pleasure in doing bog standard mundane housey type activities for my family. Cooking, shopping, washing, cleaning (even though this one I don't love).
I think that if I outsourced all these activities I would (a) not be helping my kids learn ordinary life skills and (b) not show my kids that life is not just about hanging out together cuddling on the lounge, (or earning money) but involves doing stuff for each other - caring for and serving each other in the day-to-day stuff of life.
So I live with a tension that exists for me within the 'working mother of 5' descriptor and sometimes wonder if I'm alone on this one.