being a MK.
Developing new friendships as we get older can be confusing. Finding someone we actually like and find easy to get on with can be hard work. Developing a real friendship in the midst of all the acquaintances. Or, as Seinfeld helpfully points out, it can feel like dating. You like them. But they seem to have lots of other friends. You try to initiate social interactions. They don't reciprocate. So even if you find someone you do like they may not always be as keen! It's not always a straightforward process.
There's a temptation (as I've experienced with my No 4 child starting school ) to say 'This is TOO much! I can't do this anymore. No more new relationships'. And it makes sense in lots of ways. Invest time in those relationships that you know are good and strong and reliable.
But I've been the new, friendless person so many times in my life that if all the people I met said 'Sorry, I'm full up with great friendships, so even though you seem nice, I just don't have room left', I would have had a miserable life.
One of the strategies I've used to meet people as I've moved into new situations is to get involved with some kind of group that meets regularly. A Bible study group at church, a mother's group, committee at preschool, book group. So that all you have to do is turn up and you have a purpose for regular contact with people.
Of course it is complicated, takes time, a few risks and some hits and misses. I often think that making new friends is like getting some mud, throwing it around and seeing what sticks! It can be messy but you won't know unless you start throwing.